When the family doesn' like that you ride a motorcycle...

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Today's post deserves readers special attention. No that the other posts doesn't deserves, but in importance, maybe this post is the reason of the blog. Of course, if my readers will enjoy what I like that they understood, it's another story.

The idea came about because of this point in the internet discussion group. There, he struggled the fact that often one or more family members who disliked their husbands/children/grandchildren/nephews/etc. ride a motorcycle, sometimes even threatening them physically and/or seek to dissuade the rider a trip through what we call psychological violence. And do not find funny, because more than proven that these "fights" may take one or both of the contenders called somatization to result in a death or serious illness (such as specific forms of cancer, brain tumors, etc..), mental (dementia schizophrenia, stress, or other disorders o.c.t.) and/or, in the case of spouses, separation. Which, unfortunately, is less rare than one might imagine.

Those who follow our posts, must remember that we wrote about another relevant subject, which pulls this: fear. One of the passages from that text that I have for the most important is this:

"But there is a sector where fear has failed so infamous: he will not sell his freedom never. 'Cause this is something that depends entirely on you and your way of seeing the world. Contrary fear, though many have forgotten, isn't safety.

The opposite of fear is COURAGE! "

Also, do not believe you know, but I have everything you do not want or should not be said by you and not by those you love most.

Let me tell you something ...

My wife and I are simply passionate, though married for almost 10 years. Every now and then I see it as if seeing it for the first time. And that is so true, although perhaps she did not know. When I met her she also rode a bike. Of course many will say here so I'm just a lucky guy and in my place, would not have so many problems, quarrels and complaints. Ok yes I'm a lucky guy to have found it, but that's not the point of our discussion. Going to the point, a few weeks ago, because of my stubbornness, she declared: "That way you will end up losing this thing." Jeez holy mouth! Or damn? How funny! Not that I miss it? And it did not take! Inattention? I was "influenced"? "Clairvoyance"? The unbelievable for such a "sixth sense" that many women have? Go Know!

Of course when we walk the bike the risk is huge. Nobody can deny this. But what the family often does not understand is that the risk is much less than a trip when walking inside the city! And it's not uncommon for family "complicate" only when you go traveling, like this - not run in crazy traffic of cities - that can take your life.

Go questions:

- You walk the bike within the city?

- As your wife sees this?

At the end of the day, you have to convince your wife of one thing: he loves her unconditionally (but you have to look in your heart if this is really true or if you're only fooling yourself) and, come that happens, you will always be by her side.

As for the bike, do you understand, in a light conversation, a most romantic night in which "creates" sleeping on grandma, aunt or something in where the bike is part of one of his passions, his life, his therapy.

Take it to meetings (if she runs, will drive you or following you follow!), Make your trips (like 50% of them!) With her, the two of you on vacation and the small school, finally, presents this " YOUR WORLD "for her.

I have to be home when no one has more "private world". Or you understand that, or ... Is that biblical story that the priest says, "A man leaves his family and joins his wife to form a ..."

But ...

In the end (and hopefully not be riding a motorcycle and / or not before edging age and more or less 100 years at least, preferably for more), do understand and probably cry heard you say it (preferably after a bottle of good wine) but the truth is that we usually "just" one way or another leaving alone. Or separated (worst case) for "incompatibility of temper" (I would say tastes and dreams ...) or vai a first and another later or in reverse order (intermediate event between the best and worst). Not that love is so great that causes it is only a matter of hours, minutes or perhaps, luckier still close together.

Here the best, romantic in the extreme: one wakes up, sees the partner of decades already "passed to another plan," and dies of a heart attack caused by large chest pain, in mind. Yes, that is a very high probability when the two old men now, still love each other. Come on this is rare nowadays, but believe that it is much less rare than the two die together, old and tragically, like honey-moon celebrates 60 years of marriage and plane crashes ... 200 survive 10 and can not find his remains, while the rest are all crew and passengers! Uauhhhh! I always tell my wife to me that this would be the death perfeira!! Because it will leave no doubt in the air if you did not survive ... And the family will still be left wondering if grandparents and crazy adventurers will one day return. Ready! You will become ghosts - and myths - forever! Uauhhhhh!

Shoooowwwwww!!

Anyway ...

Believe: if when leaving for another adventure motorcycle hear something like "... when salts bike I do not expect you to come back.", This may have far greater meaning than just the literal meaning of the phrase ... The fear that you do NOT return is not always exactly only fear you die as you would imagine, but a fear far greater than that of his "old self" that part now the roads, with whom she was accustomed, die alone for her, because that could hurt far more than physical death. Even that old because you, a few minutes ago when you started reading this, that you who left for another trip back ever, has died in the past. Always turn again another day older, more experienced, more relaxed, knowing what really matters in life, whatever, etc..

Then make her understand that her world "stranger", this transformation. Introduce your new self to her. Let her fall in love with this new guy again. Take her along on occasion. Occasionally let her choose and choose where to go, HOW to travel (no. .. You need not go ALWAYS motorcycle! Floor by car, bus or plane once in a while, believe me, do not kill him, nor does worse pilot!) and how much travel.

If it is always and invariably your way, then there is no "donation" no "unity".

When this happens you have to ask yourself what are you doing after spokes beside her. No! The fact that you have a child in common you can not chicken out, because if that happens you are losing time and what little they have left of their "youth" and beauty that take years before the eyes "others", who knows, finally, eyes that you understand every time you leave and change. Why not? And that goes for both of you! Especially because what parents want most, while selfish pain in the heart, is that one day their children leave home, find a good wife / o própias follow their lives, they also riding a motorcycle or not, as they, and not the other, wish. Yes .. These "pets" grow and sooner than you can imagine will be just the two of you again. Again only husband and wife, without much more to worry about than each other, their day-to-day, and trips to the rabugisses two. A honeymoon or gall. You are who you choose.

Now ... If this woman is together, this future old lady, you want to live the rest of your life, the more you believe it has - like any human being! - His faults, always try to see the qualities and especially her (Yes! Those same that made you decided to marry this creature and more over the years that you've discovered!) And let her know again all his countless reasons to always want to come back as soon as possible, although somewhat different, even when God (or the Universe, Buddha, events or whatever you believe in) will allow.

And if you've written it all look exactly your "real truth" summarize all that those two words - where one has two letters, the other three, and usually go together - she needs to listen to what you may, for many reasons that is not so important as you think, has not said lately.

Either that or ...

Remember, for your bike you should be an everlasting love ... Your wife, your children, your family, you should just love. Eternally.

Think about it and ...

Bon voyage!

Photo Credit:

1º - Ricardo Chagas site
2º, 3º and 4º - particular pictures
5º - Google images